Fast Forward to last night: My girlfriends and I show up to Xino in Santa Monica, dressed up, and ready to make snap judgments about the eligibility of strange men.
After mingling at the bar for a bit, we all sat down at a long table, where there was an empty chair next to each woman.Finally, 13 years ago, I realized that if anyone was going to build the place I dreamed of, it would have to be me. When I started working on Pink Sofa, I consulted with lesbians all over the world to find out what they valued in a community.Since then I've been working to build a place for lesbians to meet, talk, learn about each other, and (with any luck! In their responses, I found 10 words that kept coming up again and again.The ones that include NYC also claim some New Jersey, maybe a little Pennsylvania, Long Island, etc. Let’s hop across the East River for a moment – in the 20-34 range up above, Williamsburg has a few more men and Greenpoint has a few more ladies, but if we adjust down to 20-29 the picture changes a wee bit. Hip, single, straight, female twentysomethings: you are doomed. Going back to the Chinatown-makes-Lower-Manhattan-blue observation, let’s examine the Outer Boroughs to see if we can find a trend…In each of these MSAs, there are absolutely more young, single men than young, single women. is Jackson Heights, where you have a large number of South Asian immigrants (and NYC’s oldest gay community). Queens Chinatown), ③ is Brooklyn Chinatown and ④, if you’ll allow me a large degree of geographic wiggle room, is Brighton Beach, with a large number of immigrants from Russia (and others).