Two main issues are in play here: honesty and uncommunicated expectations.First, your husband offers an explanation for his behavior that is possible, but not highly believable.These people believe that if they do not even know the real name of their cybermate—and never actually see them—their affair cannot be regarded as from a moral point of view; it's no different from reading a novel or other form of entertainment.In other words, a way to play out fantasies in a safe environment.Three years ago, at 50, he had a classic midlife crisis (his words): new 'boy band' hairdo, jive lessons ( without me), going to the gym, trendy clothes, a second mobile - and online dating.
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I'm 51, I work full time and have been married for 30 years, with two grown-up children - one of them still living at home.
The past ten years have been challenging as my husband had to work 80 miles away, living two lives as he splits the week between job location and home.
Many of them believe cybersex to be similar to pornography—an extension of fantasy that actually helps to keep them from physical affairs with other people.
Consider the following statement from a 41-year-old married man (all citations are from to cheat—something that may even add spice to their offline relationship.