When he saw an ad for the dating site Ashley Madison, which boasted 36 million members and the tagline, "Life is short, have an affair," he decided to check it out. Everyday, he received more of these come-ons — until he finally said, "Fuck it." "I'm like, ' Hey, all these women want to talk with me,'" he recalls. As anyone who's dated online knows, this is not entirely unusual. "I just figured they're not interested anymore," Russell says.
"' Let me go ahead and put in my credit card information.'"Russell paid 0 for 1,000 credits, which he could spend on sending replies or virtual gifts. After a few months of rejection, he didn't bother to log back on Ashley Madison again.
And while those micro-decisions seem unimportant, they add up and do matter, because you’re only as good as the profile you craft.
So how do you create the kind of online identity that will land you a first date?
Check out Jill's before and after photos above; she is the beauty you see in Photo #2, and was inundated with responses after her Smart Dating photo shoot.
Bloggers poured over the data, estimating that of the 5.5 million female profiles on the site, as few as 12,000 were real women — allegations that Ashley Madison denied. Bots are infiltrating just about every dating service.
A whopping 59 percent of all online traffic — not just dating sites — is generated by bots, according to the tech analyst firm, Are You a Human. Spammers are using them to lure victims on Tinder, according to multiple studies by Symantec, the computer security firm.
Your online photos and profile are your personal advertisement in cyberspace; they need to be amazing.
Simply put - you need to have a fun, positive profile and great photos to attract the attention of high quality people.